Boys Suck Part 2: You are a man aren't you?
Note: This is part 2 in a series of polarizingly analytical blogs about the state of the male dating pool for females at this time. As I mentioned in part 1 - no offense to the collective guy psyche, but I can't help it - too many examples of guy idiocy abound around me.
My wife can be quite emasculating at times. She is smart, independent, brutal, ruthless, and about 4x, er make that 10x, wealthier than I am. In short - she's Alexander the Great embodied in a great looking Asian woman body and face. She has a sweet smile and demeanor - but don't cross her - she'll steal food from your young. She drives a faster car than I do and for the most part, she makes the decisions in the house regarding finances, purchases, etc. A lot of times, I feel like I'm the clingy spouse who better hang on for dear life. Talk about role reversal. So it may be a little wierd for me to talk about being a man, but its like anything I say on this site - I pull most of it outta my ass anyways, so why not?
Despite my wife's strong independence and evil ambition, I still try to embody the old-fashioned principles of being a man and a gentleman. There's a difference between the two - but its important for a guy to embody both. Most times my attempts at this end up in a big flail-fuck. What's a flail fuck? Its worse than a fuckup. Because not only do you fuckup, you flail at it - which makes the fuckup extra pathetic. And nothing is worse than being pathetic. If your'e gonna fuckup - at least fuckup in grand style.
Still I try - which is more than I think many other men do. I'll elaborate more on what these principles are later, but right now I'd like to illustrate the problem in many men today.
I see 2 major deficits in guys these days. For one, a lot of men don't feel a sense of urgency in attaining a career and job that will help provide for their s.o. and their family in the future - they think of only themselves. Second, many men don't advocate for their girlfriends, wives, etc.
No urgency
These guys know who they are. They fall into 2 general classes for me. First are the ones that don't do shit. They have degrees, they're smart, but they can't bring themselves to either get a job or to motivate themselves to expand their career to increase their earning potential. They're just plain lazy. I mean, that's fine if they wanted to live all by their lonesome. Hell, if I was single and didn't want or need a woman - I'd just do whats enough to feed myself, bathe myself, clothe myself, and entertain myself (video games, Tv, music). For those guys that live this way - more power to you. But there's a problem if you want a woman in your life - I"ll explain later.
The second class is the ones that do shit - but only for themselves and no one else. They think their earnings are solely for themselves - noone else. If they are motivated by anything - its either greed or their mother. Again, I don't care if this is something they want to do on their own - but when they involve another person in their life - it can't be this way.
In both cases, I have seen too many guys who are either lazy or selfish complain about not having a woman. Herein lies the problem. Being a man means attempting to be a provider. I'm not saying that a man has to be the provider. I'm just saying - brother please, give it a try. Not only do you shore up your man status if you can try, you also make the woman feel like your bigger than your own basic wants and needs. You actually think outside the Xbox. You really do care about more than just about what you can afford next. If you're lazy or selfish - it should be no suprise to you if women are not knocking down your door. It means to women that you may not be able to protect them or your family in a time of need. That when the going gets rough - all you care about is your own hairy, lazy ass. That's not attractive by any stretch of the imagination (both the hairy ass part and the lazy part - unless there's some strange sexual fetish I'm not yet aware of).
Advocacy is not saying, "I got hoes in every area code."
Some men have a strange sense of advocacy. I think women like to be advocated for. They want a man to let others know about them and how great they are. Its not only a sign of appreciation by the man for the woman, its a sign of unselfishness - her strengths far outshine yours.
These days, men talk about their women to further their own agenda. For example, the hip hop crap that comes out these days is seriously eroding any sense of gentleman advocacy. The "real G" way of advocacy is to say that their hoes are "bangin" and can "roll the best weed." I'm down with women who are good looking and can provide me some pharmaceutical aid, but this is a new level of crassness. It smacks of selfishness. The hip hop "thugs" use advocacy to advance their own "pimp potential." Its like saying how much your cars cost - its not a reflection of the cars - its bragging about how playa you are.
Some men prefer not to advocate their women at all. They hide them away for reasons unbeknownst to me. If you truly love someone, shouldn't you want to show them to the world - or at least tell your family members about them? Not to belabor the women are like cars analogy, but I married my dream car and I'm going to let everyone know how wonderful that car is - how fast it goes, how good it looks, how it fits me better than bikini swimsuits on Kathy Ireland (old school hottie by the way). I mean, I'm not saying I go around and say, "Hi my name is so and so, my wife is the bomb - she is awesome." I'm just saying I wouldn't purposefully keep her away from anyone for any reason. I'm proud of who she is and goddamnit (sorry to my Christian readership) I'll proudly introduce her to the world.
Consequently, I get bothered when I see guys failing to introduce their girls to their friends, their family, or their coworkers. Why? Are they embarrassed? Are they afraid she will steal the spotlight? Are they afraid that their girl won't be accepted? All I can say is - WHO THE FUCK CARES? If you truly love a woman - you will always put her ahead of anyone. And advocating her to your family, friends, and your network of aliens means that you think about her more than anything else in your world. Be glad you can even have the opportunity to advocate - if you didn't have her, you might have to advocate your right and left hand - and noone wants that.
Alas, another lengthy blog is concluded. I've decided that long blogs go a long way to keepign the riffraff from raiding my site. I figure I can't offend people if they've fallen asleep. Time for me to go and attempt to be manly to my wife again! Note to self - I need to drop this whole, "can we cuddle" thing if I want to be even more manly. Hey, I never said that I was manly - I'm just trying!
My wife can be quite emasculating at times. She is smart, independent, brutal, ruthless, and about 4x, er make that 10x, wealthier than I am. In short - she's Alexander the Great embodied in a great looking Asian woman body and face. She has a sweet smile and demeanor - but don't cross her - she'll steal food from your young. She drives a faster car than I do and for the most part, she makes the decisions in the house regarding finances, purchases, etc. A lot of times, I feel like I'm the clingy spouse who better hang on for dear life. Talk about role reversal. So it may be a little wierd for me to talk about being a man, but its like anything I say on this site - I pull most of it outta my ass anyways, so why not?
Despite my wife's strong independence and evil ambition, I still try to embody the old-fashioned principles of being a man and a gentleman. There's a difference between the two - but its important for a guy to embody both. Most times my attempts at this end up in a big flail-fuck. What's a flail fuck? Its worse than a fuckup. Because not only do you fuckup, you flail at it - which makes the fuckup extra pathetic. And nothing is worse than being pathetic. If your'e gonna fuckup - at least fuckup in grand style.
Still I try - which is more than I think many other men do. I'll elaborate more on what these principles are later, but right now I'd like to illustrate the problem in many men today.
I see 2 major deficits in guys these days. For one, a lot of men don't feel a sense of urgency in attaining a career and job that will help provide for their s.o. and their family in the future - they think of only themselves. Second, many men don't advocate for their girlfriends, wives, etc.
No urgency
These guys know who they are. They fall into 2 general classes for me. First are the ones that don't do shit. They have degrees, they're smart, but they can't bring themselves to either get a job or to motivate themselves to expand their career to increase their earning potential. They're just plain lazy. I mean, that's fine if they wanted to live all by their lonesome. Hell, if I was single and didn't want or need a woman - I'd just do whats enough to feed myself, bathe myself, clothe myself, and entertain myself (video games, Tv, music). For those guys that live this way - more power to you. But there's a problem if you want a woman in your life - I"ll explain later.
The second class is the ones that do shit - but only for themselves and no one else. They think their earnings are solely for themselves - noone else. If they are motivated by anything - its either greed or their mother. Again, I don't care if this is something they want to do on their own - but when they involve another person in their life - it can't be this way.
In both cases, I have seen too many guys who are either lazy or selfish complain about not having a woman. Herein lies the problem. Being a man means attempting to be a provider. I'm not saying that a man has to be the provider. I'm just saying - brother please, give it a try. Not only do you shore up your man status if you can try, you also make the woman feel like your bigger than your own basic wants and needs. You actually think outside the Xbox. You really do care about more than just about what you can afford next. If you're lazy or selfish - it should be no suprise to you if women are not knocking down your door. It means to women that you may not be able to protect them or your family in a time of need. That when the going gets rough - all you care about is your own hairy, lazy ass. That's not attractive by any stretch of the imagination (both the hairy ass part and the lazy part - unless there's some strange sexual fetish I'm not yet aware of).
Advocacy is not saying, "I got hoes in every area code."
Some men have a strange sense of advocacy. I think women like to be advocated for. They want a man to let others know about them and how great they are. Its not only a sign of appreciation by the man for the woman, its a sign of unselfishness - her strengths far outshine yours.
These days, men talk about their women to further their own agenda. For example, the hip hop crap that comes out these days is seriously eroding any sense of gentleman advocacy. The "real G" way of advocacy is to say that their hoes are "bangin" and can "roll the best weed." I'm down with women who are good looking and can provide me some pharmaceutical aid, but this is a new level of crassness. It smacks of selfishness. The hip hop "thugs" use advocacy to advance their own "pimp potential." Its like saying how much your cars cost - its not a reflection of the cars - its bragging about how playa you are.
Some men prefer not to advocate their women at all. They hide them away for reasons unbeknownst to me. If you truly love someone, shouldn't you want to show them to the world - or at least tell your family members about them? Not to belabor the women are like cars analogy, but I married my dream car and I'm going to let everyone know how wonderful that car is - how fast it goes, how good it looks, how it fits me better than bikini swimsuits on Kathy Ireland (old school hottie by the way). I mean, I'm not saying I go around and say, "Hi my name is so and so, my wife is the bomb - she is awesome." I'm just saying I wouldn't purposefully keep her away from anyone for any reason. I'm proud of who she is and goddamnit (sorry to my Christian readership) I'll proudly introduce her to the world.
Consequently, I get bothered when I see guys failing to introduce their girls to their friends, their family, or their coworkers. Why? Are they embarrassed? Are they afraid she will steal the spotlight? Are they afraid that their girl won't be accepted? All I can say is - WHO THE FUCK CARES? If you truly love a woman - you will always put her ahead of anyone. And advocating her to your family, friends, and your network of aliens means that you think about her more than anything else in your world. Be glad you can even have the opportunity to advocate - if you didn't have her, you might have to advocate your right and left hand - and noone wants that.
Alas, another lengthy blog is concluded. I've decided that long blogs go a long way to keepign the riffraff from raiding my site. I figure I can't offend people if they've fallen asleep. Time for me to go and attempt to be manly to my wife again! Note to self - I need to drop this whole, "can we cuddle" thing if I want to be even more manly. Hey, I never said that I was manly - I'm just trying!
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